There is just something about having and spending face time with other people. In a world so text savvy and where Facebook has taken over the earth and is the common communication avenue. Having people over for coffee and dinner. Spending time together is becoming uncommon.
Let’s be Uncommon.
As we seek His face ….
May we also seek others face ….and fellowship
Its not easy when you are trying to communicate and it just feels like the other person has no intention on being reasonable. How about when you find you don’t either?
I found myself saying :
ok…well I have something I want you to see and you have something for me to see. Are we willing to be on the same bridge and meet in the middle on this.
I didn’t get the answer I wanted (I wanted to hear a resounding ….. of course lets make this work. )
I left the situation….sad, hurt, disappointed and angry.
After my reasoning and my imaginary conversations of all the what if’s, and could have said’s…not to mention the angry thoughts exploding in my mind of how I am NEVER, EVER going to again and so on.
It came down to me….(personal responsibility)
Once the emotions simmered down I was able to see ME. I was only willing to be on the bridge if the other person was willing too. That is just sad! A sorry excuse of a Jesus Girl.
Forgive and you will be forgiven!! ( Luke 6:37)
So I made the choice to forgive and stand on that bridge, I heard the other person….am I willing to give?? even when I don’t think it is fair (only because of my self-righteousness and need to see the other person hear me, do for me.) Am I willing to set aside my pride and be humble and serve this other person?
Philippians 2:3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.
Jesus gave when we didn’t deserve it!!! HE LOVED & FORGAVE!! And through HIM, I can do this!
And so can you! …right?
Posted in Attention, Behavior, Healing, Link up, My thoughts
- Tagged anger, communication, disappointment, forgiveness, hurt, Luke 6:37, Philippians 2:3, Philippians 4:13
I am taking a break from the normal posting routine … Labor day I took off so I get I am having a blog-cation for the week. LOL!!
Yes that means No Thursday thougths book Im reading….have you read the others..check them out:0) — Thursday Thoughts: Days of Deepening Friendship
Seems like when you take a break from a routine you start another in other places..ever notice that???
Maybe that is the concentration center of the brain only able to change one thing at a time…
MULTI-TASKING!!! is it even really possible or are we just spreading ourselves thin and not being fully in the MOMENT!! –good question??!!
Ok so since I had that spark of thought here are some quotes for todays thinking …routines, living in the moment, multitasking…
The past is a guidepost, not a hitching post. ~L. Thomas Holdcroft
“Multi-tasking – Screwing everything up simultaneously.” ~unknown
| “A man practices the art of adventure when he breaks the chain of routine and renews his life through reading new books, traveling to new places, making new friends, taking up new hobbies and adopting new viewpoints”
|~ Wilfred Peterson
| “Life is all memory, except for the one present moment that goes by you so quickly you hardly catch it going”
| Tennessee Williams
| “We decide to multitask instead of experience.”
| Michael Rosen
Any thoughts ??!! :0)
Have a blessed day and dont forget to rest once in a while..take a break…even if for 10 mins. Take a half hour nap or just close your eyes.
Do one thing at a time and live in the moment even if for an hour!! Its good for ya!
Be nice to yourself :0)
There is a place where two people can stand. Having differing opinions. Having different understanding.
Sometimes this place where two can stand takes each one on a journey within themselves to find what is most important …to be right in their own mind and thinking…to have the other agree with them so that they feel protected and appreciated or is it that the relationship is more important. When we think of finding the common ground with another person we must bypass our own ego needs of LOOKING RIGHT, GOOD, and TRUE…and find the real : BEING RIGHT by Loving First…..BEING GOOD by Loving First….BEING TRUE by Loving First. When you can bypass all those thoughts in the mind that tell you that the other doesn’t understand and seek instead to understand them then you can find that common ground to stand.
Sometimes disagreements swirl in a mass of chaos. Rolling back and forth between the two gathering negative steam. The feelings that fly…the thoughts of defence….the fear of rejection and misunderstanding..the hasty words spoken..and yet if we SLOW DOWN to really hear…and bypass our storm within …we can walk on tobeing on common ground.
Yesterday my daughter said that her teacher said ” That too often the kids jump to conclusions.” In thinking of that, is that not also what we adults do?? – JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS…..saying to ourselves: they basically said I was stupid….they basically said I was not a good friend…they basically said they didn’t like me….
Often these are what we THINK we hear….just what WE THINK WE HEAR!!! and we are running with it !! Not knowing if it is really true we just THINK it is TRUE because that is what we say we are hearing….
In a situation, I felt like I was being judged…..and in my book I say “I found that if I saw others judging then I am also the one judging. It all begins within.” A major key for me is admitting the truth and not defending what I feel. Yes I felt judged, but when I ran with that feeling ….. I became the judge of the other person for MY feeling judged. When I acknowledged that I was now the one judging …I ceased from defending what I felt …and I took responsibility for my feelings and what I was now doing.
It is hard to wade through all the feelings of emotions when they become inflicted and try to walk on in common sense to common ground but it is possible. It takes a willingness to find that ground and begin honest communication about how you feel and what you are doing to contribute to the chaos….and be willing to believe the other person has the best intentions toward you.